The Secrets of Happiness

The following compilation of approaches around the world for “creating” happiness was  included in the email I received today. Some of the approaches described may not be new to some, but the collection is succinctly and beautifully presented. Use the  link below and be happy.


Mother and Wife – Difference in Treatment

The thoughts shared here were expressed by a very famous actor in India. My wife received the material from her friend and asked me to read it. Given my bias towards the ‘movie world’, my first reaction without reading was, “why are you wasting my time?” She did not walk away so I decided to read it. The material addressed how differently men treat their mother compared to their wife.

I was impress with the thoughts expressed and could not help wondering why my wife wanted me to read it. Though my mother had passed away before I met my wife, I could help but wonder whether she feels that I have not been any different in our relationship, then men described here. I did not have courage to ask her but the article did cause some serious  ‘soul searching’ on my part. Time will tell whether any positive changes happen in me as a result.:)

I have included below the original material without any editing (except the use of italics).


Difference between Your Mother and Wife

“They both Love us. Both Sacrifice for us. Both make us Eat more than we require. Both make our house into a Home. Both Pray for us. Both are Always there for us. Both Live for us….

Then, why do we post/say funny jokes about wife and laugh and always post respectable quotes for mother? The only difference I can see is one Brings you into the world … and the other makes You her world. But, men always take their wife for granted and oftern ignore them in important tasks, matters, decisions, planning, etc…. Because they think that they are in-efficient to handle them.

Dear men it’s True that your mother sacrifices to make you become a Leader, but a wife sacrifices to maintain your Leadership… Your mother gets your affection and care throughout her life. But, a wife gets your full attention only when she is near the end of her life; waiting to get  your Certification of her soulmate…. Please give her importance in early age of her life so that she can feel that she is not only the Princess of her Father but also the Queen of her Husband.”



The story/material I am sharing here was sent to my wife from her friend. It addresses our basic human trait and behavior. I have shared below the material as received (except the use of italics) and it may reflect a different time and culture to you. However, the message is not affected by those differences, and worthy of our attention.


JRD Tata had a friend who used to say that he misplaces and loses hispen very often. He will use only very cheap pens so that he need not worry about losing them. He was worried about carelessness habit.

JRD suggested to him to buy the costliest pen he could afford and see what happens. He did that and purchased a 22 caret gold Cross pen. After nearly six moths JRD met him and asked him if he continues to misplace his pen. His friend said he is very careful about his costly pen and he is surprised how he has changed. JRD explained to him that the value of the pen made the difference and there was nothing wring with him as a person!

This is what happens in our life. We arte careful with things which we value most.

  • If we value our health, we will be careful about what and how we eat.
  • If we value our friends, we will treat them with respect.
  • If we value money, we will be careful while spending
  • If we value our time, we will not waste it.
  • If we value relationship, we will not break it.


Carefulness is a basic trait all of us have, we know when to be careful.

Carelessness only shows what we don’t value…


I’m Changing

I am sharing with you some material my wife received from a friend. The material lists the changes one can make to improve his/her quality of life and for all those around. The author is not from USA, so some of the items on the list may need some ‘adjustment’ to fit in our culture. I believe the list covers both behavioral and spiritual considerations, and worthy of serious deliberation.

The original material is included below without any editing (except the use of italics).


Days slip into weeks, weeks turn into months and months transform into years. Calendars are changing and so am I.

Yes, I  am changing. *After loving my parents, my siblings, my spouse, my children, my friends, now I have started loving myself.*

Yes, I  am changing. *I just realised that I am not “ Atlas ” and the world does not rest on my shoulders.*

Yes, I  am changing. *I now stopped bargaining with poor vegetables and fruits vendors. After all, a few rupees more is not going to burn a hole in my pocket but it might help the poor fellow save for his daughter’s school fees.*

Yes, I  am changing. *I pay the autowalla / cabbie and walk away without waiting for the change.The extra money might bring a smile on his face. After all he is toiling much harder for a living than me.*

Yes, I  am changing. *I stopped telling the elderly that they have already narrated that story many times. After  all, the story makes them walk down the memory lane and relive the past.*

Yes, I  am changing. *I have learn not to correct  people even when I know they are wrong. After all, the onus of making everyone perfect is not on me. Peace is more precious than perfection.*

Yes, I  am changing.  *I give compliments freely and generously. After all its  a mood enhancer not only for the recipient, but also for me*.

Yes, I  am changing. *I have learnt not to bother about a crease on my shirt or a spot on my clothes . After all, personality speaks louder than appearances*.

Yes, I  am changing. *I walk  away from people who don’t value me. After all, they might not know my worth, but I do*.

Yes, I  am changing. *I remain cool when someone plays dirty politics to outrun me in the rat race. After all, I am not a rat and neither am I in any race*.

Yes, I  am changing. *I am learning not to be embarrassed by my emotions. After all, it’s my emotions that make me human.*

Yes, I  am changing. *I have learnt that its better to drop the ego than to break a relationship. After all, my ego will keep me aloof whereas with relationships I will never be alone*.

Yes, I  am changing. *I demand  for whatever  is due to me. After all, accepting injustice is almost as bad as doing injustice*.

Yes, I  am changing. *I’ve learnt to live each day as if it were the last. After all, it might be the last* .

Yes, I  am changing. *I am doing what makes me happy. After all, I am responsible for my happiness, and I owe it to me.*



Can We Amend History?

The title of this post is ‘stolen’ from a TED presentation with the same title. I it watched today and was very much impressed with the its content and presenter. History plays a big part in our collective and individual cultural growth. In this presentation the speaker uses art as a medium to demonstrate the need for us to ‘amend’ history as means to bridge the cultural divides among us.

Use the link below to watch this TED video presentation. The less than 10 minutes it will take, if nothing else, will expose you to a ‘better’ way for viewing art when you visit a museum. However, I do not think that going to a museum is necessary to develop and benefit for that insight.:)

A Mind-Blowing Talk

I came across a TED presentation video for which one can use the adjective “mind-blowing” both figuratively and literally! The speaker describes and demonstrates the use of technologies to modify/enhance our capabilities for ‘experiencing’ things around us. As he points out the potential of his approach is limitless and that is, at least for me, mind blowing.”)

Use this link to view the TED presentation.


Good Life

This is not about any Xmas time movie that is recycled year after year. This is a TED report on a 75 year long (continuous and ongoing) Harvard study of tracking individuals to find out what makes a ‘good life’. This 12 minute video is worth the time. You will find out the key results of the study; learn what is essential for a good life.

Watch, enjoy, and learn by using the following link. This is the right time of the year for it!
Happy Holidays. 

Do you Understand your Medical Test Results/Report?

I am sure everyone reading this had at one time or other gone to a lab, such as Quest or LabCorp,  for blood or some other tests.  I will not be surprised if some of you, as I, will admit that you did not understand the numbers in the pages of report that was generated [and if you asked for it] given to you.

I came across this TED presentation that addresses this issue of understanding, and subsequent behavioral change that the test results should engender in the person tested. I was surprised, and so you’ll be, to learn that it is not that difficult to make these reports [and other ‘medical’ information] understandable  by most adults. Sadly, the problem is the current providers of this information. They lack motivation.:(

Use the following link to watch this presentation. Do utilize the four questions mentioned, near the end of the talk, the next time your doctor sends you for some tests.



Value of a Coach

Based on my selection of the title for this post I will not be surprised if you have assumed that I am going to describe coaching as it relates to some sport activity. Well, I am not! This TED presentation is by a surgeon who describes the value delivered by ‘coach’ in healthcare. He describes and stresses the benefits of a coach to any professional in helping him/her get “as good as” one can and not stop improving before that.

This presentation pretty much made by day. I was getting ready to wrap up and go to bed. I noticed this email from TED before turning in and decided to watch it. I am glad that I did and was so impressed that I delayed my bedtime to compose this post. 🙂  I hope you will find the video and its message well worth your time.

A Mother’s (True) Story

First a warning … This TED presentation may NOT be happy one to watch; you may want to end it after a minute or two of viewing.

I am sharing this because I believe, from personal experience, that the material presented here is valuable for every parent, not just mothers. This mother’s message is worth remembering. My sincere is hope that none of you will have to utilize her advice.